You're making hard choices every day. You're tired. Frazzled. Burned out.
Let's stop this madness! All that nurturing you're giving to everybody else? Turn some of that love and compassion on YOU! If your choices are not supporting you and the life you want to create, make new choices that are in alignment with who you are, and who you want to become.
Learn to say NO. Protect the vision that you have for yourself and your future. We need your vision, your creativity, your compassion, your gifts and talents, and your voice - but not at the expense of YOU!
Start asking yourself, "Does this support the life I'm trying to create?" And then create accordingly.
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Our bodies are naturally designed for napping. But most of us fight tooth and nail against our body’s natural circadian rhythm, and this is wreaking havoc on our well-being, turning us into a horde of zombies that crave espresso instead of brains.
You’re working long days and you need to be just as strong in the afternoon as you are in the morning. Start taking Naps. Studies have shown that if you break up your day with a nap, you will be as alert and energetic for the second part of your day as you were for the first. Naps improve performance in multiple critical areas.
Oh my heavens, I love this photo :)
You gotta love the kilt! Well, at least I do. The point here is that your first impression isn’t made at an introduction, it's actually made the moment you become a blip on someone else’s radar.
See the young man to the left eyeing the guy in the kilt? He’s internalizing what he’s seeing and it’s forming an impression on him (good or bad) of the kilt-wearing gentleman.
Without you even saying single a word, people are making assumptions about you when you enter a room.
Can you see how important it is to be intentional with what you project?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this (and no shaming the guy in the kilt – cuz he’s frickin’ awesome.) Email me at [email protected] Better yet, join my email list!
The times I thrived the most were because of the mentors and leaders guiding me. They lived the lifestyle I wanted, they had the amazing relationships I wanted, and they practiced what they preached.
Do you love and appreciate those you associate with daily? Too many people hate what they do, they hate their job, and aren't too crazy about their co-workers. Girl, life is too short to have toxic people around you.
I help people get results when they want to make a greater impact in their careers and on the people around them - I answer their questions, I give them research-backed strategies, give them feedback, and share my own personal journey. I absolutely love what I do.
Who are YOUR mentors? If you don't have one, reach out to someone you trust for their advice. No one reaches success alone.
Today, this article is all about making confident and charismatic impressions.
Why is this so important? Because if you make a positive impression when first meeting someone, the rest of your relationship will be influenced by it, thereby tipping the scales in your favor.
On the other hand, a lousy first impression can prove almost impossible to overcome, often deciding the outcome of a meeting, job interview, or first date even if the rest of the interaction went pretty well.
So how can we make a charismatic and confident first impression?
As we covered in the previous articles, we know that people will jump to conclusions about others with very little information to support their gut feelings, and that we tend to trust the nonverbal over the verbal. So, if your body language is anti-charismatic, it doesn’t matter how great your message is.
If you display high confidence through your body language, people will tend to assume that you have...
Hey, it happens to the best of us. Sure, we want to make a good impression, but we hate small talk so it gets awkward fast. Alas, here are 10 Killer Conversation Icebreakers to get - and keep - the conversation going.
1. What are you working on that you're passionate about?
2. I'm looking for a good non-fiction to read. What do you recommend?
3. Where would you like to retire? Why this place?
4. What is the most exciting thing you've ever done?
5. What is something you would like to learn to do?
6. What is the most unpleasant job you ever had to do?
7. If you could invite 3 people (living or dead) to your home for dinner, who would they be, and why?
8. What lesson did you have to learn the hard way?
9. Who has been the greatest influence in your life?
10. If your closest friend wrote a book about your life, what would the title be?
I love these questions, because small talk turns into BIG talk, fast! What are your favorite conversation icebreakers? I'd LOVE to add them to my list!
Thirty minutes was all I had left with my client, “Mark.”
For the first twenty minutes of his training session, Mark had gone into detail about why he wasn’t happy, even though he should be. He talked at length about how he felt he was being undermined at work. He knew that he should be standing up for himself, and start showing his colleagues that he’s “got his act together.” He wanted to stand out in meetings, he also desperately wanted to fit in with the people he worked with. He looked at me, and continued to give more reasons why his life felt so incongruent with who he thought he was and could be.
I’ve been paid to help Mark through this, and I had twenty-five minutes left before his session was over.
I moved in close, standing nearly toe-to-toe, and peered deep into his eyes: “Is it possible, Mark, that there is a courageous, exciting, authentic, and confident man in there?”
Do you ever feel invisible sometimes? Like you’re overlooked or what you have to say doesn’t matter?
If you’re grudgingly nodding your head yes, you’ll get a lot out of this article.
First of all, no matter who you are or what business you’re in, there will always be people who are just not interested in hearing you out. It doesn’t matter how great your ideas are, you can’t make someone listen to you if they’re not interested.
Take heart, because more often than not, their disinterest is a reflection on them and their circumstances. It’s not a reflection on you.
With that said, let's take a look at how you communicate.
Because making small tweaks in the way you communicate can make a world of difference in making sure you are taken seriously.
This list isn’t exhaustive. Not even close.
But its enough to give your communication skills some traction the next time you need to be heard.
Number 1. Cut the jargon.
Its that time of year again when families and friends gather to exchange gifts and feast on food and wine. Here’s a take on an old, but favorite, Christmas song to help you navigate the parties ahead.
On the twelfth day of Christmas my true love gave to me….
12 Palms Uplifted – If you’re asking for help with decorations or even offering a drink, use a "palms up" gesture instead of a "palms down" gesture. You'll give an impression of being more open and inviting, and less like you're giving a command.
11 Introductions – If you want to be an awesome host, this is the best thing you should be saying all night: “Hey, have you met _____? I would love to introduce you!” The second best thing to be saying all night: “Can I get you more food/drink?” Connect as many people as possible and make sure they’re comfortable with food and drink. Your guests will feel at ease and cared for.
I'm working with a client to develop her digital brand into something that will capture the interest of her potential clients. One of the elements we worked on today was her Avatar, the photo(s) she uses on social media and on her coaching website.
Your avatar is your visual representation of your professional persona and your BEST authentic self. Your avatar should be interesting and not bland. It should represent your personality, but also demonstrate strength and warmth. Because strength demonstrates certainty, and people pay for certainty. And warmth gets people to like and trust you. So both need to be considered.
Rather than just posting a photo, put some thought into how you want others to perceive you. Because your avatar is often the first impression we have of you, and that first impression carries a lot of weight.
What images and colors come to mind when you think of quirky, confident, creative, smart,...