I’ve been working with a senior leader recently who is learning to expand his executive presence. Like many leaders, he’s confident in his work, but when it comes to networking events or larger meetings, he finds himself holding back—especially when it comes to starting conversations or sharing personal stories.

This is a common challenge for introverted leaders: the spotlight feels uncomfortable, and conversations can feel flat or transactional. The good news? Executive presence in these settings isn’t about dominating a room—it’s about creating genuine connection. And that can be learned.

Here are the tools and strategies I teach my clients to help them feel safe, confident, and generous in how they show up with others.

1. Anchor Your Nervous System Before You Enter the Room

Executive presence starts on the inside. If your nervous system is in “fight or flight,” it will show up in your posture, tone, and energy.

• Grounding Breath: Inhale for 4 counts, hold for 2, exhal

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It’s hard to behave in an authentic way if you don’t know what you value and desire. At its root, authenticity requires self-awareness and self-knowledge, and accepting your strengths and weaknesses.

Acceptance isn’t always easy, but it’s what we strive for. Authenticity is the basis of executive presence. Trust your intuition. Choose things that move you closer to your values. Notice when you’re being inauthentic.

Research shows that authentic people feel better. They’re more resilient and less likely to turn to self-destructive habits. Authenticity develops trust, credibility, and confidence with the people you interact with.

Authenticity can feel scary and vulnerable, but it also builds intimacy. Be purposeful in your choices. If you’re finding yourself feeling fragmented, bored, unhappy, or uninspired, it could be that you aren’t acting authentically. Creating space for self-awareness is ever-evolving. 

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