I want to give you a simple yet genius technique that will help you be more powerful, charismatic and persuasive — in just 3 seconds flat.
Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you the Pause.
When you’re in a conversation, a pause of silence gives you the wonderful opportunity to listen and to make an impact on the people around you.
Being a really good listener is one of the most underrated secrets of success. Its crucial if you want to be more charismatic, more persuasive, and a better negotiator.
Plus, truly listening to someone and having them feel that they were truly heard is one of the biggest gifts you can ever give. The pause gives you presence. And people can feel it.
The problem is, most of us suck at listening, and we don’t even know it. We’re always interrupting people with our points of view, feedback and ideas.
But when you remain quiet and just zip it shut, you’ll be surprised how often people will open...
Survive No-Shave November With These Tips
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You may want to save this! A good presentation will help you build visibility, trust, and eventually turn your audience into clients, voters, or land you that promotion.
Here are some tips to ace your speech:
1. Go in with the right mindset. Confidence equates to certainty in the minds of others, and people pay for certainty.
2. Stay out of monotone. If you use a monotone voice, people will be checking their emails under the tables instead of listening to you.
3. Practice your speech beforehand.
4. Know your material well enough to be able to look down at your notes, pull a few keywords and be able to talk about them. This requires that you practice your speech.
5. Make eye contact. It draws the audience in. But don't hold any one person hostage with the eyes. They'll start avoiding your gaze.
The points listed above are just a few of MANY. But if you only had time to choose a few, this list is a great start.
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Didn't get the promotion you wanted? Here is a list of possible reasons why:
1. You made the mistake of thinking you were the only one being considered for the promotion.
2. You decided to show up and wing it. "Winging it" is never a strategy.
3. You didn't make enough eye contact. Or worse, you made too much eye contact and creeped the interviewer out.
4. Your answers to their interview questions were boring and unremarkable.
5. You talked about your past accomplishments, but didn't speak to the value you could provide in this new position.
6. Your body language gave away the nervousness and anxiety you were trying to hide.
7. Your handshake was weak or it was wet from holding the chilled glass of water they offered you.
8. You weren't dressed for the position you want to hold.
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This is a good question! Why? Because no one wants to fail when they're presenting in front of an audience. What often happens is when you get nervous or anxious, your voice will get monotone. Monotone kills presentations.
Here's an easy exercise that will help bring more life and engagement to your speech or presentation: Turn on the TV or YouTube. Find someone you think is a good speaker. Now watch her with the sound off. Notice the facial expressions, where her hands are, how she's standing, what her face looks like when she's talking AND when she's not talking. Then with the sound on, close your eyes and just listen to her. How does she pace her sentences? What's her voice like? Does she vary her tone?
DO rehearse out loud
DON'T sound canned or monotone
DO write how you talk when you create your speech
DON'T worry about flubs - it makes you human.
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Ahhh, the podium. Thinking you can hide behind a podium is making a big mistake.
Using a podium does have several advantages. It can feel like a life preserver when you're in the deep end of a pool. The podium grounds you by giving you something solid to touch. With that said, I recommend that you stand to one side of it whenever possible.
1. Standing beside it removes some of the formality of the interview.
2. When you're parallel to the podium, you're closer to the judges. This makes the interview seem more intimate.
3. Stand on the far side of the podium. This gives the judges more time to see you walk, and being further away from the door will make you appear more at ease.
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It’s hard to behave in an authentic way if you don’t know what you value and desire. At its root, authenticity requires self-awareness and self-knowledge, and accepting your strengths and weaknesses.
Acceptance isn’t always easy, but it’s what we strive for. Authenticity is the basis of executive presence. Trust your intuition. Choose things that move you closer to your values. Notice when you’re being inauthentic.
Research shows that authentic people feel better. They’re more resilient and less likely to turn to self-destructive habits. Authenticity develops trust, credibility, and confidence with the people you interact with.
Authenticity can feel scary and vulnerable, but it also builds intimacy. Be purposeful in your choices. If you’re finding yourself feeling fragmented, bored, unhappy, or uninspired, it could be that you aren’t acting authentically. Creating space for self-awareness is ever-evolving.
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It doesn't matter if you're a politician, a business owner, or an expert in your field - if you're giving an on-camera interview, you want to make a memorable and lasting impression.
Here are 3 tips to help you shine!
1. If you're standing, plant your feet about hip distance apart and stay there. Moving around is really going to piss off whoever is running the camera.
2. If they give you a chair and it swivels, ask for another one. The last thing you want is to look like you're 12 years old by swiveling in your chair. If they can't switch chairs, don't swivel.
3. Whatever you do, don't touch your hair. It makes you look flighty.
1. Rehearse out loud
2. Speak with enthusiasm and/or passion
3. Gesture - it will help you to remember what you want to say, and the audience will remember more of what you tell them.
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"When you stand on the stage, you must have a sense that you are addressing the whole world, and that what you say is so important the whole world must listen." – Stella Adler, actress.
I love this quote! Because when you can demonstrate this level of poise and confidence during your on-stage question, judges take notice.
Despite your answer, it should be conversational, and it should not be rushed. And whatever you do, don't use a monotone voice. It's natural to be nervous, and that alone will make you want to be monotone.
Pro Tip: rather than giving a predictable answer, show your confidence and poise by being expressive and animated. Get them to notice you for all the right reasons.
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